Hello Darlings,
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner and every girl expecting that grand gesture of romance from their significant other. It makes me wonder what do men think of Valentine’s Day? Well, I was always convinced that men dread this day. The expectations are unreasonable and the possibilities of crashing-and burning are too high. Women expect too much and men are terrified of disappointing. Bad Valentine’s Day planning can result in major relationship troubles and it makes me wonder what is the point of it?
A day that is meant to be enjoyed by couples has become a freak show where men are trying to impress, while women are expecting things that they don’t even know that they want. What do we want from them? Is wining-and-dining really romance? Are roses really that romantic on this one particular day? Are chocolates that wonderful? Personally, this whole idea of choreographed romance is quite ironic because is romance really this? What happened to just wanting to spend the time together in each others company? The time spent together is not what it is about anymore, because after the Valentine’s Day every girl is going to discuss and evaluate his progress over coffee/or cocktails with the girlfriends. Then it becomes a contest of which boyfriend did the best.
So why not cut the tension and just plan something for him? or plan something together? Or better yet don’t make a big deal of a “holiday” that is so generic that almost makes a mockery of romance? Should men be obliged to create romance on this one day? I don’t think so…
Regardless of how long you’ve been together, why not make this easier for him and just don’t expect. You might be pleasantly surprised at how much fun you can have together. Also, don’t forget that this day is as much about him as it is about you. He’s not just the one that should be trying to charm your socks off, why not do the same? Consider what he might like to do and suggest that you want him to have fun as well. How about attending a sporting event together, hosting a Valentine’s party for you and your friends? Why not just stay in together and really dedicate the time to each other? Just enjoy the time that you get to spend together.
So my point of this entire post is to say cut him some slack and have fun together! Please, don’t make a big deal if he doesn’t bring you roses, or stuffed animals or doesn’t ‘t make dinner reservations. Just appreciate the effort. Don’t screw up your relationship over one day. It’s most likely that more damage gets done on this day than romance, and then what’s the point if you end up fighting or you go home with your expectations not met? What’s the good in that!
What do you think of Valentine’s Day? What do you plan or hoping to do on Valentine’s Day?
Wishing You a Fun Day!!!!
With Love…
Marta
Source: fashion gone rogue
In reality, people in love do not need a reason to do special things or give present just because it’s St. Valentine’s day. When you love somebody you do things spontaneously when the time is right and this may not necessarily be 14 Feb. Plus, every couple is unique, so copying others just because “it looks pretty” isn’t an option, in my opinion. Do what you both feel is right and comfortable for both of you. And toys, roses and chocolates are such a cliche! I think this could only work for a girl who reads Cosmo and dates a boy…
Happy Valentine’s Day!
xxx
Dear Marta, I personally try to avoid great expectations because I think that it will lead me to a great disappointment when, indeed, he has done his best and for him whatever he has done is a huge gesture. It is easy to blame romantic films and the great love stories but let me guess that it is because of those that sometimes we might feel upset when not seeing what was expected.
What I love in a relationship are not these days but those in which he shows up with flowers just because he thought of you when he was walking down the street and saw them or candies, for instance. Are the beautiful words whispered after the dinner or a kiss in the hand what really will tell us, girls, if he loves us.
Love xx
I am so glad you posted this - my boyfriend and I have come to a similar agreement to just spend more time together, cook a nice meal together and enjoy a break from our exams - we’re not the type of people who are super lovey-dovey so why should we conform to a pop culture “norm”? Hope to hear the following part of this soon!
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Nice post! Oh the pressure of Valentine’s Day! I also wanted to thank you for your skin care post! I ordered some Kiehl’s products, and am loving them so far!
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Jamie
You are absolutely right. It is a silly holiday. The time spent together, the effort made, and the love shared, are the things that really matter.