Hello Darlings,
According to Wikipedia, Valentine’s Day is traditionally a day when lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, chocolates, jewelry, and sending valentines. While of course most women do enjoy the celebration, but what do men really think of this love holiday?
So I asked my friend Wilder Weir for his perspective on this delicate issue. As the ever-charming host of Oh So Cosmo and a creator of Paddling Bryans – Wilder Weir can talk “guy stuff” with men while still relating to women. I interviewed Wilder Weir while shooting an Oh So Cosmo segment, and here is what he said:
Marta: What do single men do on Valentine’s Day?
Wilder: They go out to the bar and have the worst night of their lives.
Marta: Why the worst night?
Wilder: Every guy who is single ends up going out expecting to find the love of their life. What ends up happening is you show up and it’s all dudes getting drunk and you end up hating your single life more than you already do.
Marta: So single men dislike Valentine’s day in a similar way that some single girls do?
Wilder: Absolutely. Guys hate Valentine’s day single or in relationship. If you’re in a relationship, you have to buy presents for a day that is totally constructed by Hallmark.
Marta: So, you’re anti-Valentine’s Day?
Wilder: Totally anti-Valentine’s Day. If you want to show that you love somebody, you don’t have to wait for that specific date. I think that it is completely fabricated.
Marta: Fair enough. But as a guy you have to celebrate it and I am sure that you do?
Wilder: You have to do it, don’t get me wrong. On Valentine’s Day as a guy you need to step up the play or you’re screwed.
Marta: What would you plan?
Wilder: It would probably be something low-key at my place. Dinner and a movie….
Marta: Would you cook or take-out?
Wilder: I don’t know how to cook. So it would be the thought that counts. The thought would have to outweigh the terrible meal. Probably, I would just order in.
Marta: Gifts or no gifts?
Wilder: Gifts are pushing it a little bit. If we have met on Valentine’s Day or it had some sort of significance to it other than just another day of the year, then yes. I think that people these days are kind of over it but that’s just me.
Marta: What to avoid during Valentine’s Day?
Wilder: Avoid going to the bar but also avoid being alone. You don’t want to be home alone, watching movies and crying. Have a good time with friends but don’t go looking for love that night.
Marta: Proposing on Valentine’s Day?
Wilder: I would say do not propose on Valentine’s Day, it is very cliché. But it could be a good way to remember your anniversary. You kill two birds with one stone.
To read more and to follow Wilder Weir, you can click these links Wilder Weir Facebook Fan Page and Wilder Weir on Twitter
And PLEASE share your own comments and experiences on the topic of Valentine’s Day! The Keg Steakhouse and Bar has generously provided two $50 gift certificates to giveaway to WithLoveGabrielle.com readers – so I will select one person who comment on each of Josie’s and Wilder’s interviews to receive the gift certificates. I will wait until February 16th to select the winners, so please do share your 2012 Valentine’s Day experiences!
With Love…
Marta
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23 Responses to Valentine’s Day According to Wilder Weir
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My husband actually proposed on Valentine’s Day. I was completely surprised and taken aback. I understand that it is a cliche but whenever you decide to propose, is when you decide. The most important thing is that you are asking your girlfriend/boyfriend to be your life partner.
That is very sweet and very true
Interesting to read both their perspectives! Maybe I’m just a die-hard romantic, but even though I don’t expect/particularly want gifts… I love that one day where love is celebrated.
I think that Valentine’s Day is a sweet reminder to celebrate love, however I do think that some people take the whole idea overboard.
Over the years Valentine’s Day has changed so much for me. Valentines used to be about me. What my husband was going to get me and where he was going to take me. After we had our kids and they were young I didn’t really think anything of it. He would always get me flowers and a card but we never made a big deal out of it and I know there were years I didn’t even get him a card (horrible yes). The kids are older now and we go out as a family. My hubbie takes the boys to pick out flowers for me and our daughter and then we celebrate
I think that is such a sweet tradition
It is wonderful if Valentine’s Day can be celebrated as a family.
I really have to agree with Wilder, Valentine’s day is completely a Hallmark Holiday!
Single or in a relationship I’ve never given much thought to the occasion! I think that if you love someone you can find ways to show them with out being told there is a certain day to show it!
My favourite part of Valentines day usually comes the day after, when all the chocolate goes on sale!!!
I agree about the candy, Godiva was having an amazing sale the next day!
I have to also agree that Valentine’s Day is a completely fabricated holiday. I do love the discount cinnamon hearts and chocolate that go on sale the next day, but I’ve never believed in celebrating the day of. Why let Hallmark tell you when you should do something special for someone to show them you care? It means so much more when it’s spontaneous. There’s so much pressure to make this particular day special that I think whatever anyone ends up planning for their significant other falls a bit short…Also, my boyfriend’s and my birthday both fall in Feb, and when the first Feb came around I told him there were too many celebrations in this month and we’d have to cut one of the special occasion’s – Valentine’s day didn’t make the cut!
For me Valentine’s Day was always just a day that celebrates love, it’s a sweet message for as long as it is not overdone. I do enjoy receiving flowers on Valentine’s Day but nothing over the top just a sweet gesture.
The first year we were dating, my husband came home like it was any other day. Looked at me, got this weird look on his face and ran out the door mumbling something. He came back about an hour later, and a lot poorer, with a card, chocolates, overpriced limp flowers and a stuffed heart shaped pillow that lit up and played a tune when you squeezed it. It was crazy. Now we plan a special day for us in February, but it isn’t necessarily on Valentine’s. We have a nice dinner, relax and enjoy each others company. Because really, that’s what is is all about.
Exactly what Valentine’s Day should be, just time to spend with each other and celebrate love. Without overdone gift ideas.
By the way, my husband and I had a discussion that was very similar to some of the things that Wilder mentioned, and that is part of why we now celebrate our way on our day! BTW, we had our Valentine’s Dinner last night at our favourite restaurant. It was quiet and intimate, we had the attention of the chef and owner, and…because Sundays are slow, they had a 3 course dinner special, so we saved about $20 over a regular night’s meal and likely $30-40 over what it would have cost on Valentine’s Day. It worked out quite nicely!
My first Valentine’s day was with my high school sweetheart. We went to high school in neighbouring cities, and neither of us could drive yet, so he bussed an hour and a half to surprise me at my school at the end of the day with a small bouquet of flowers. I will never forget that feeling of being the luckiest girl in the world that day!
That is so sweet, I remember my first Vanetine’s Day as well. I receive a valentine telegram from my crush and then he gave me flowers. It was very innocent and adorable.
I have always thought valentines day to be a very silly day made up by hallmark and other companies to steal money from our pockets . The thing is… recently I have been paying attention to the little things in a relationship, the small gestures that remind us that someone cares and I think that people forget to do them for each other as often as they should. maybe valentines is a nice reminder to go out of your way to do something to remind the person just how much they mean to you. Big or small. maybe love is worth celebrating.
I think that love is worth celebrating but without the crazy gifts and overdone romantic dinners. Just time together is enough
I do think that everyone is what matters most, anyone can do romance on Valentine’s but keeping that romance alive everyday, now that is a challenge.
Absolutely. I am a total romantic and its hard to keep it alive everyday. It is worth it. But can def be a challenge!
Couldn’t agree more but it is definitely worth the challenge
I get why people don’t like Valentine’s Day but I also feel like it’s just a great day to celebrate love in general. Why not have a holiday all about celebrating your loved ones? This year was cute because the night before V-day my boyfriend turns to me and says, “oh hey, tomorrow is Valentine’s Day isn’t it??” I thought for sure he wasn’t planning on getting me anything and I had to write a midterm as well that morning. Maybe he didn’t have it planned ahead of time but when I got home he had gifts waiting for me. It made the day extra sweeter because I had been stressed all morning and just needed that show of affection. Also – totally agree with the not proposing on Valentine’s Day thing. I am sure it would be sweet regardless but I am not a fan of proposing on V-day, Christmas, New Years or a birthday… Seems like just an easy way to remember the date! Haha
That is very sweet of him!
I do agree that Valentine’s Day does have a great intention behind it and that is to celebrate love.
“Killing two birds with one stone”…that’s exactly the attitude that men should avoid when proposing to a woman. I totally agree that proposing on valentine’s day is a cliche. I think that proposing to someone you care about, to someone you want to spend the rest of your life with should be done on a day that is set apart from the rest and that means something special to the couple- not on a holiday created by hallmark.
It definitely becomes a special day
Valentine’s Day might not be the best day but I think it is the gesture that counts.