Hello Darlings, Without reading too much into this, or thinking there is a developing trend with two relationship articles in a row, but I thought to follow up yesterday’s article — Stop, Before Kissing That Boy — with an article on when should you know that your relationship is over. I put my research skills to a good use and was astonished to learn that 48% of marriages end up in divorce .
My research also showed additional unpleasant facts including:
• Almost 75% of Canadian divorces are being initiated by women.
• One year after separation or divorce, 50% of children of divorced or separated families never see their fathers again.
• First marriages have about a 50% chance of ending in divorce , that risk becomes greater with each successive marriage (about 72% for second, and about 85% for third marriages).
So despite his current despair, Robert Pattinson is better off knowing now that Kristen Stewart is a cheat, than he would be to learn this later if they were to get married. And obviously the same could be said for everyone reading this – the best way to avoid a messy divorce is to never marry the person in the first place.
Nowadays, many parents seemingly want their kids to move out by their early twenties and it’s common in our culture for young couples to live together. The convenience of living with your best friend and lover is a natural temptation, not to mention the benefits of sharing expenses. But an ugly downside is that convenience leads to commitment and dependence that may not be so easy to break away from.
In my experience, every relationship is unique and there are no sure rules as to when you should call it quits. Cheating is a clear sign since that person has already essentially moved on and just perhaps too cowardly or selfish to deal with the consequence of unwinding the relationship. In the case of Kristen, according to the tabloids she was living with Robert Pattinson when the affair with Rupert Sanders took place, and understandably it is no small thing to move all of your belongings out of a house. Just the same though, everyone should have enough self-respect to know things aren’t working and try to end things amicably.
What are your thoughts on this topic? Should couples live together? Do you believe in marriage?
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With Love…
Marta
Source: divorcerate.ca
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I love how this isn’t yourusual post. And those statitstics are so saddening! I come from a long line of long marriages and no familial divorces in my ancestry. I just don’t understand or like the concept of divorce and it’s sooo terrible when children are involved
XO Sahra
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I think it’s fine for a couple to live together… it’s all up to personal circumstances and each relationship is different. I was with my husband for 10 years before we got married, but we didn’t live together until we tied the knot. In my culture it’s very unusual for unmarried people to live together. I’m not against it of course, but it does give you something to look forward to after marriage
Hi there,
Great post! I have heard those numbers before but I was surprised to learn that with each successive divorce the number increases so drastically. I am a romantic, I believe in the sanctity of marriage…but with statistics like the ones above, it is tough not to be nervous about entering into a relationship. I think it has a lot to do with people not wanting/willing to work for things. It is too easy to get out of a marriage for the wrong reasons. I mean, sometimes it just isn’t working or there is abuse – totally appropriate but sometimes I think it is a case of people thinking the grass is greener on the other side. Just my opinion. Great post. I enjoy your blog
Hey! That’s a a great post!
I have been raised thinking that marriage {blame the fairy tales} is something very special and that it is sacred. My parents are still together (knock knock) as well as all of out relatives and friends. Yet, I find divorce a very normal and even healthy procedure for couples {unless, one of them has done everything possible to kill the other’s dream}. We all change, and no matter how long couples know each other – their interests change, their respect for each other dies, which is very unfortunate, and they just become “people accustomed to each other”.
Why marry at the first place? Well, I think it is a commercial way to show society that you are together. You are basically entitled to it, you have to do it – spend $60K on one-day wedding in order to get divorced in a year. Or if true romanticism still exists , it is a way for a man to show his woman that she must belong with him {and that he is ready to kill a polygamous animal in him}.
As for the divorced couples with kids, once again – I think it is mentally healthy for a child. Would a child rather see their parents fight constantly and grow up in negativity and screams rather then living with a happy single parent and see the other one on certain dates?
It all depends from a parent strength to raise a happy child in a positive environment.
Yet, this decision is for the brave and “new age” breed of people.
In conclusion, I would like to say, that one should make marital decisions despite the society rules and ignore those people, who “know better”. It has to be pure and natural.
PS. I could go on about this topic forever! Maybe we should organize a tea session on marital issues
In this day and age, the only rule is that there are no rules. Every. Couple. Is. Different.