Hello Darlings, While not everyone is comfortable to openly discussing their in-between sheets details, we can all admit that having a fulfilling love life is of great importance. Since the day of loving also known as Valentine’s Day is tomorrow, I decided to put my research skill to good use and find scientifically backed tips and tricks on how to keep your love life red hot. Basically, rules of seducion! After all, it has been proven that your between the sheets satisfaction directly impacts overall health. So what’s not to love about that? An orgasm and reduced blood pressure, it’s a win win for everyone!
Like everything satisfactory in life, it all comes down to confidence. Confidence not only in yourself but your couple which is why understanding some of the basic differences between us and our men will hopefully add that extra spice to your love.
1. Emotional Intimacy
While men and women have opposing views on number of sexual topics, one has been proven to be of great importance to both — emotional intimacy. In a survey conducted by Durex and YourTango, 96% of respondents agreed that the best sex is with someone whom they are emotionally connected to. Therefore the best thing for your sex life is to be in love as sex with feeling trumps every other kind. Especially, since 90% of respondents say that sex improved after being together for a longer period of time. So sex is not just a physical need but also an emotional one which brings couples together. So don’t be nervous showing your vulnerabilities, being emotionally connected to one another makes for a fulfilling love life.
While technology may dominate our lives and should certainly never be a part of our bedroom scenario this is one of few instances when its use is welcome. Sending unexpected cheeky images or flirty text messages or reminiscing about past sexual encounters does wonders for imagination. Think of it as digital foreplay! According to Dr. Fran Walfish, these little messages genuinely build confidence and remind of just how attracted the partners are to each other. So even if you’ve been together for ages and you feel silly to be sending sexy images to your partner, the more unexpected it is the better. This especially should be applied in the case of distance, either in a long distance relationship or when one is traveling. Just be spontaneous and surprising! In fact a it’s been proven that being away from your partner at least one day a month can improve the frequency of sexual activity. So perhaps having that monthly girls slumber party or solo escape is not a bad idea either. There is a reason they say that distances makes the heart grow fonder.
3. Welcome Props
According to a survey by Durex, 63% of adult Americans use props such as blindfolds, and bondage tools during sex. This is interestingly compared to only 20% worldwide. So if you’re prop-free then head over to a theater and get inspired by the latest Fifty Shade of Grey and on the way home stop over at a sex store. According to a study in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior people who have had positive BDSM activities show an increase in relationship closeness. Therefore trying something new and perhaps on a risque side makes the two of you feel more connected especially when the communication channels are open.
In a survey by a lingerie company it has been proven that men and women have contradicting tastes in lingerie. While men favor cut-outs, bows and suspenders and lots of skin; women prefer more practical choices that offer comfort and coverage. For women, lingerie serves a more practical purpose while for men it is indulgent. What’s interesting is that 84% of surveyed women have admitted to having a special occasion set and that wearing it makes them feel much more confident. So perhaps adding a few “special” pieces to an ordinary day maybe be just the reminder you need on how beautiful you are. Also men prefer women in bold lingerie colors as opposed to women enjoying neutrals. So in all fairness, ladies if you want to feast his eyes add color, skin and lace into the mix. Plus, when wearing that seductive look, you’ll transform the way you feel and in turn be much more confident and seductive.
5. Trust is Everything
With all of research it is obvious that trust in your partner is key in introducing experiences and things. Therefore if you’ve been interested in trying something new, do not be nervous to sit down and be open with your better half. The open communication brings both of you closer and discussing new adventures also inspires better sex. Therefore do not be nervous to step outside of your comfort zone maybe even just to please him. Perhaps purchasing that sexy garter belt just for him to enjoy or agreeing to being cuffed to the bed, will not only add that thrill but a new level of comfort. Therefore be open minded and open to your partner’s needs and suggestions. Trust that your relationship is solid enough for both of you to explore your sexuality and desires.
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This Valentine’s Day do something spontaneous, fun and adventurous as you may surprise him and yourself. Sometimes daring yourself is just the confidence boost that you need, so jump-start your fun filled day with a sexy text and slowly lead him towards your desires.For more tips on love and lust, check out Durex Canada on Facebook and Twitter. Happy Loving!
*in collaboration with Durex Canada. The views and opinions expressed are my own.