Hello Darlings, While not everyone is comfortable to openly discussing their in-between sheets details,  we can all admit that having a fulfilling love life is of great importance. Since the day of loving  also known as Valentine’s Day is tomorrow, I decided to put my research skill to good use and find scientifically backed tips and tricks on how to keep your love life red hot. Basically, rules of seducion! After all, it has been proven that your between the sheets satisfaction directly impacts overall health. So what’s not to love about that? An orgasm and reduced blood pressure, it’s a win win for everyone!

Rules of Seduction

Like everything satisfactory in life, it all comes down to confidence. Confidence not only in yourself but your couple which is why understanding some of the basic differences between us and our men will hopefully add that extra spice to your love.

1. Emotional Intimacy

While men and women have opposing views on number of sexual topics, one has been proven to be of great importance to both — emotional intimacy. In a survey conducted by Durex and YourTango, 96% of respondents agreed that the best sex is with someone whom they are emotionally connected to. Therefore the best thing for your sex life is to be in love as sex with feeling trumps every other kind. Especially, since 90% of respondents say that sex improved after being together for a longer period of time. So sex is not just a physical need but also an emotional one which brings couples together. So don’t be nervous showing your vulnerabilities, being emotionally connected to one another makes for a fulfilling love life.

Rules of Seduction2.  Introduce Sexting or  Flirtexting

While technology may dominate our lives and should certainly never be a part of our bedroom scenario this is one of few instances when its use is welcome. Sending unexpected cheeky images or flirty text messages or reminiscing about past sexual encounters does wonders for imagination. Think of it as digital foreplay! According to Dr. Fran Walfish, these little messages genuinely build confidence and remind of just how attracted the partners are to each other. So even if you’ve been together for ages and you feel silly to be sending  sexy images  to your partner, the more unexpected it is the better. This especially should be applied in the case of distance, either in a long distance relationship or when one is traveling. Just be spontaneous and surprising! In fact a it’s been proven that being away from your partner at least one day a month can improve the frequency of sexual activity. So perhaps having that monthly girls slumber party or solo escape is not a bad idea either. There is a reason they say that distances makes the heart grow fonder.

3. Welcome Props

According to a survey by Durex, 63% of adult Americans use props such as blindfolds, and bondage tools during sex. This is interestingly compared to only 20% worldwide. So if you’re prop-free then head over to a theater and get inspired by the latest Fifty Shade of Grey and on the way home stop over at a sex store. According to a study in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior people who have had positive BDSM activities show an increase in relationship closeness. Therefore trying something new and perhaps on a risque side makes the two of you feel more connected especially when the communication channels are open.

Romance Your Man4. Lingerie With Him In Mind

 In a survey by a lingerie company it has been proven that men and women have contradicting tastes in lingerie. While men favor cut-outs, bows and suspenders and lots of skin; women prefer more practical choices that offer comfort and coverage. For women, lingerie serves a more practical purpose while for men it is indulgent. What’s interesting is that 84% of surveyed women have admitted to having a special occasion set and that wearing it makes them feel much more confident. So perhaps adding a few “special” pieces to an ordinary day maybe be just the reminder you need on how beautiful you are.  Also men prefer women in bold lingerie colors as opposed to women enjoying neutrals. So in all fairness, ladies if you want to feast his eyes add color, skin and lace into the mix. Plus, when wearing that seductive look, you’ll transform the way you feel and in turn be much more confident and seductive.

5. Trust is Everything

With all of research it is obvious that trust in your partner is key in introducing experiences and things. Therefore if you’ve been interested in trying something new, do not be nervous to sit down and be open with your better half. The open communication brings both of you closer and discussing new adventures also inspires better sex. Therefore do not be nervous to step outside of your comfort zone maybe even just to please him. Perhaps purchasing that sexy garter belt just for him to enjoy or agreeing to being cuffed to the bed, will not only add that thrill but a new level of comfort. Therefore be open minded and open to your partner’s needs and suggestions. Trust that your relationship is solid enough for both of you to explore your sexuality and desires.

To celebrate Valentine’s Day, Durex Canada has yet another exciting giveaway that will surely please both of you. All that you have to do is enter below with your information and keep in mind that the contest ends, February 18th.

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This Valentine’s Day do something spontaneous, fun and adventurous as you may surprise him and yourself. Sometimes daring yourself is just the confidence boost that you need, so jump-start your fun filled day with a sexy text and slowly lead him towards your desires.For more tips on love and lust, check out Durex Canada on Facebook and Twitter. Happy Loving!

With Love…


*in collaboration with Durex Canada. The views and opinions expressed are my own.



  1. Tom
    February 14, 2015 / 3:31 pm

    Spending it with the one I love.

  2. Matt
    February 14, 2015 / 4:31 pm

    Would love to win this! Would make for a fun night

  3. Jennifer D
    February 14, 2015 / 6:22 pm

    Spending the evening in. Ordering a pizza and watching a movie.

  4. Margaret H
    February 14, 2015 / 6:27 pm

    Flowers.chocolate romance

  5. Rachel
    February 14, 2015 / 6:38 pm

    My ideal Valentine’s Day is going out for dinner with my boyfriend, followed by a movie and wine and chocolate at home on the couch! Simple but lovely.

  6. Eric
    February 14, 2015 / 7:24 pm

    start by watching 50 shades of grey….

  7. Darlene Schuller
    February 14, 2015 / 8:53 pm

    I nice quiet night at home alone with my husband… dinner, some movies.. wine..

  8. Holly Wright
    February 14, 2015 / 9:11 pm

    My idea Valentines Day is a day at home with my sweetie! Take out, romantic comedies and cuddling!

  9. Kate
    February 15, 2015 / 7:33 am

    Yesterday was my ideal valentines – spent the day with my husband and kids, followed up by a quiet night watching a romantic movie.

  10. Gene D
    February 15, 2015 / 10:34 am

    a quiet movie night with my beautiful wife

  11. Chris
    February 15, 2015 / 10:39 am

    Quiet time with my wife

  12. andrea
    February 15, 2015 / 1:44 pm

    I guess a night without the kids!

  13. Lindsay Ball
    February 15, 2015 / 3:32 pm

    Sleeping in and staying up late. Spending the whole day with my man

  14. Judy Cowan
    February 15, 2015 / 3:37 pm

    My perfect Valentines would be a romantic dinner at home, followed by cuddling on the couch watching a romantic movie…I am for simple times spent together. And I am sure this prize might come in handy 🙂

  15. michelle matta
    February 15, 2015 / 4:26 pm

    my ideal valentine’s is relaxing and full of variety at the same time. Good food, cuddles, a warm bath, maybe a movie, and whatever else the night brings

  16. Bonnie Toll
    February 15, 2015 / 4:46 pm

    Durex provides some great couples fun! 🙂

  17. DaveO
    February 15, 2015 / 8:46 pm

    My ideal Valentine’s Day includes a romantic dinner, a show, and an overnight stay in a nice hotel.

  18. February 15, 2015 / 10:36 pm

    My ideal Valentine’s Day would be keeping things simple. Getting to sleep in, maybe breakfast/brunch in bed. Then go out for a nice dinner somewhere, doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. Come home and stay in for the rest of the night snuggling on the couch via candle light watching a couple of movies. Just me and my man doing the things we love, together, in each other’s company.

  19. heidi c.
    February 16, 2015 / 12:44 am

    My perfect Valentine’s Day usually involves my hubby remembering which this year he didn’t but candy, a card, flowers, even a night out would be fab!

  20. nicolthepickle
    February 16, 2015 / 8:45 am

    Going out for coffee and a croissant, and then for an afternoon at the beach.

  21. elaine beierbach
    February 16, 2015 / 11:33 am

    I remember being young like that once and too broke for th fancy wear.

  22. Kristian Weavers
    February 16, 2015 / 1:26 pm

    Great dinner, wine and some love

  23. Jo-Anne Pfoh
    February 16, 2015 / 2:07 pm

    dinner and movie at home and lots of romance

  24. Cody Pfoh
    February 16, 2015 / 2:10 pm

    I took her to a B&B it was awesome

  25. Erica Seaman
    February 16, 2015 / 2:11 pm

    Valentine’s day is my birthday, and my family always take me out for supper and surprise me with a cake 🙂

  26. Zvonimir
    February 16, 2015 / 7:23 pm

    Making dinner at home and watching a movie

  27. jessica s
    February 17, 2015 / 2:07 pm

    dinner and a movie!

  28. Patrick Siu
    February 17, 2015 / 4:58 pm

    Spending the day at a spa then go to the hotel

  29. Carole B.
    February 17, 2015 / 10:50 pm

    a nice restaurant and dessert at home

  30. Dustin Betts
    February 18, 2015 / 8:51 am

    Spending the day with my Valentine!

  31. Marilyn Legault
    February 18, 2015 / 9:49 am

    an outdoor activity, nice supper and a glass of wine before bed

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