Hello Darlings, In many situations you’ll hear people advice that it’s not the situation it is your state of mind that carves out the outcome. While I’ve always been the one to take that advice with a grain of salt, lately I’ve been questioning as to how true it may be. In many situation whether personal or professional we are defined by our outlook. Over time our mindset becomes habitual as does the process in which we resolve problems.

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Have you ever taken a moment to look back on a situation and think how could I have handled it differently? I’ve been doing that a lot lately. Looking back on your own responses can provide with answers that you’re looking for. Depending on how you handle unexpected situations or high stress demands will showcase what your attitudes are.

If you are easily irritated or angered, chances are you’re disadvantaging yourself but acting on impulse. Over number of years that I’ve had my business, I’ve finally learned to handle my responses; and boy, there were moments where I thought I was going to go ballistic. That is not to say that there are no moments where a break and react out of anger or frustration but 95% of the time, I  have learnt to step back. Taking time and focusing on your frame of mind also adjusts your attitude towards a situation. In turn, makes you much better at dealing with a given dilemma as you have a perspective that is not based on impulse but rather reason.

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Developing such a habit took years of practice and many failed attempts however now I can manage. Over the past year or so, I have been applying the same process to my personal life. Yes, when it comes to personal life a lot more emotions and feelings are involved making it that much more challenging. This aspect for me is still a work in progress. There are  still moments when I need to physically distance myself either from the phone or the situation, so as not to mismanage it. When emotions are running high, things are often said and done that do not represent true side of the situation. Basically, you’re just being a b*tch for the sake of it. Best way to handled those outbursts is to simply retract, calm down and then logically evaluate the situation.

As I browsed StumbleUpon, I came across a quote by Buddha –  “All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” In silence, I sat for a few minutes contemplating and wondering why in that moment that very quote stroke a chord with me. It was because in that moment where a million thoughts were running through my head  which is exactly when we handle everything poorly. We are simply not focused.

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As we’ve often heard in sports, it’s 90% mental and 10% physical and perhaps the same formula applies to life. How much of our life’s consequences are thought driven and how much of it can in fact we control? If athletes can train their minds to absorbs the high levels of stresses and competition, can the rest of us take a few tips and pointer on what it takes to truly put your mind to it. With sports aside, I am convinced that success is a direct outcome of your thoughts which in turn translate into action. Consciously or subconsciously the quality of thoughts shape our reactions and impulses. And once again as Buddha said, “Rule your mind or it will rule you.

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Regardless of whether you’re handling a work situation or a personal disagreement, always remember to manage your thoughts. In moments of weakness when you can’t, have the willpower to step away. Usually high stress situations present us with tunnel vision in which our opinion is the only one that matters. In that moment not being able to see a full picture from both sides can result in rushed decisions that can be disastrous. Just remember to be stronger than your thoughts, and step back. Both your personal life and your work life will benefit from your ability to manage your thoughts. That much I can promise.

With Love…


Images by Arnold Lan



  1. July 22, 2015 / 11:07 am

    Love the post AND the purse.

    • September 17, 2015 / 4:05 pm

      Thank you so much Ever Rose!

      Marta 🙂

    • September 17, 2015 / 4:03 pm

      Thank you so much Bella, so glad to hear it!

      Marta 🙂

  2. Svyatoslav
    July 23, 2015 / 3:50 am

    This is really inspiring. Thank you. Great pictures Marta.

    • September 17, 2015 / 3:54 pm

      Thank you so much Svyatoslav!

      Marta 🙂

  3. Brian Davis
    July 27, 2015 / 6:45 am

    What a great post and amazing advice. It’s so easy to go on the defensive and lash back at someone but as we grow older (and wiser) hopefully we have learned that this isn’t the best way respond. Now days I’m like you. Take a step back, take a deep breath and formulate a response in your mind before you open your mouth. That few seconds is enough time to think of a controlled message stating your feelings or point and is often received better than a ballistic tongue lashing. It’s a good frame of mind to approach any issues in both your professional and personal life

    Thanks for sharing these great thoughts. You look wonderful as always.


    • September 17, 2015 / 3:54 pm

      Hello Brian,

      Hope you’ve been well! So wonderful to hear that you enjoyed the article. I find that thoughts are probably the hardest thing to work at and most frustrating. In work it’s easier for me to manage them but personal life it is still work in progress as I have a hard time opening up. Hopefully with time it will change.

      Always lovely to hear from you!

      Marta 🙂

  4. August 3, 2015 / 4:47 pm

    This is a great post! It’s so true to take a step back to gather your thoughts prior to help adjust your frame of mind and outlook on a situation. Love the blog!

    • September 17, 2015 / 3:52 pm

      Glad to hear that you enjoyed it! Thank you Amanda.

      Marta 🙂

  5. Kate
    September 11, 2015 / 9:29 pm

    Great post, really enjoyed. Thanks!

    • September 17, 2015 / 3:50 pm

      Thank you Kate, really great to hear it!


  6. Michele
    May 16, 2017 / 10:05 pm

    Loved this post! Hope I’m not being rude, but what size is the Izidora dress? I couldn’t find it in store to try on, but want to purchase it online and would love to know how it fits.

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