Hello Darlings, With months of the single life, I have yet to decipher the singles market. Following two long-term relationships with a total of 6 years, to say that the game has changed is an understatement. Since I am not actively looking for love, I’ve decided to sideline myself and let the game be played by the player. I do believe that without an expectation, once in a while in the middle of an ordinary life love gives us a fairy tale!
That’s the thing about being single, at first the thought is terrifying but once you’re there it’s not bad at all. In fact, it is a wonderful time for a woman to focus on herself and self development.
I feel that when a woman lives her life on her own terms and is truly happy, then somewhere between a Starbucks run and a girls night out she will meet that perfect stranger! A woman should strive to be as happy single as in love, because happiness only comes from within and not another person.
It is not an easy lesson to learn after having a person in your life for a long time but one that is worthwhile. Wanting to stand on your own two feet should be a priority but wanting to have someone to stand by you is natural. So rather than wanting to jump from the arms of one man to another as a security blanket, focus on gaining a sense of one’s self and everything will work itself out. The next time you see a handsome stranger at the bar, let the cards play themselves out!
For those who are going through heartbreak, focus on yourself and your goals. Time does heal everything! Heartbreak is part of falling in love and that is an experience that one should never be afraid of. Just don’t invite trouble voluntarily by rushing into things. Enjoy life, enjoy every minute of it!