Hello Darlings, With months of the single life, I have yet to decipher the singles market. Following two long-term relationships with a total of 6 years, to say that the game has changed is an understatement. Since I am not actively looking for love, I’ve decided to sideline myself and let the game be played by the player. I do believe that without an expectation, once in a while in the middle of an ordinary life love gives us a fairy tale!


That’s the thing about being single, at first the thought is terrifying but once you’re there it’s not bad at all. In fact, it is a wonderful time for a woman to focus on herself and self development.

I feel that when a woman lives her life on her own terms and is truly happy, then somewhere between a Starbucks run and a girls night out she will meet that perfect stranger! A woman should strive to be as happy single as in love, because happiness only comes from within and not another person.


I AM WEARING:  Juicy Couture Dress // Truth and Pride Silk Blazer // Prada Wedges // Kate Spade Clutch // Marc by Marc Jacobs Big Idea Watch


It is not an easy lesson to learn after having a person in your life for a long time but one that is worthwhile. Wanting to stand on your own two feet should be a priority but wanting to have someone to stand by you is natural. So rather than wanting to jump from the arms of one man to another as a security blanket, focus on gaining a sense of one’s self and everything will work itself out. The next time  you see a handsome stranger at the bar, let the cards play themselves out!


For those who are going through heartbreak, focus on yourself and your goals. Time does heal everything!  Heartbreak is part of falling in love and that is an experience that one should never be afraid of.  Just don’t invite trouble voluntarily by rushing into things. Enjoy life, enjoy every minute of it! 

With Love…




  1. brandi
    July 13, 2013 / 3:43 pm

    great article — thank you!!!

  2. July 14, 2013 / 4:18 am

    Hi Marta! Great post sweetheart. x
    I remember a time, before I met my hubby of almost 14 yrs, saying to myself “I’m never going to get married, find my perfect partner, etc..” because I had had my fair share of heartbreaks. So I took time out for myself to heal my broken heart and concentrate on becoming an independent, happy, strong woman. After 8 months, right when I was least expecting it, a handsome stranger whom I locked eyes with became my perfect partner in life. I’ve never looked back since.
    Love Suzi x
    PS: My NEW blog post is up. xx
    For the Love of Audrey

    • July 18, 2013 / 6:30 am

      Hi Suzi,
      That is wonderful to hear, there is a reason why some say that loves comes to those who least expect it. At this point in my life, I am definitely concentrating on myself 🙂


  3. Alicia
    July 15, 2013 / 12:34 am

    Well said!

  4. July 15, 2013 / 5:19 pm

    Such a fun post, I love that Kate Spade clutch!!!

  5. July 15, 2013 / 7:34 pm

    You really are my fave, such class and with a touch of cheeky.

  6. Sandy
    July 15, 2013 / 10:44 pm

    I completely agree with everything you said! Women need to feel comfortable being on their own and have fun being single. The right person will come along when you least expect it! 🙂

    • July 18, 2013 / 6:32 am

      Absolutely, it’s really is an interesting period 🙂

  7. July 17, 2013 / 2:38 am

    I totally agree – every woman should be able to stand on her own to feet and be comfortable with herself (alone) before she gets into a relationship with someone. It helps you become the amazing woman that you are! And definitely, when you stop looking and just enjoy life, the right person appears – happened for me when I was so happy being on my own.

    Love that clutch!! I have the large tote bag and it makes me smile every single time I see it. What could be better than that?!


    • July 18, 2013 / 6:34 am

      Victoria, glad that you enjoyed the article! It is definitely an interesting journey and one that I am enjoying! I love that large bag but couldn’t find it 🙁

  8. Meg
    July 25, 2013 / 10:24 pm

    Oscar Wilde didn’t say that, Olivia Wilde did.

  9. August 3, 2013 / 11:16 am

    One thing I learned about love is that you don’t look for it, you should wait for it to come to you. Just like what the saying “the more you chase the butterfly, the more it eludes you” says.

  10. August 15, 2013 / 4:00 pm

    Hi marta… i have been looking EVERYWHERE for this clutch. I met my love on the bus and need to have it… would you by any chance be interested in selling it? I would be so thankful!

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