Hello Darlings, The other night as I was speaking to one of my friends, we got into the topic of Instagram and what it really says about a person. After he boldly stated that if I was to go based off your Instagram (@MartaTryshak) as to the person that you really are then I don’t think I’d want to know you. After a few minutes of deliberation, I’ve come to conclude that in many ways Instagram puts forward our most superficial face.

Instagram Frame

As he went on to point out that I do a great job growing and engaging my Instagram, it does not speak as to the person that I am. In fact, he went on to say that it is quite the opposite of who am I. Not the one to judge my character as looking at yourself from an outsiders standpoint is a mission failed type of a quest. However it got me thinking, what kind of image of our lives and ourselves do we curate on the Instagram? And yes, curate. Every single one of us curates the images that go up, in the same way that an art curator organizes an exhibit to convey the message. So what message are we sending?

Marta Tryshak Istagram

Looking at my Instagram from an objective standpoint, man I come off as a spoiled brat who only goes to parties, shopping and vacations. Who am I to blame that those are the images I share? Not overlooking a fact that I do a lot of both, majority of the time all three directly relate to the nature of my work. Yup, I sense your eye rolling right about now. So while it is my choice to share each and every image, it is also part of my job to understand what engages people, what causes a reaction and how the channel works from a networking standpoint. In the past year and a half, I grew my Instagram from 500 followers to 16,000 and all thanks to understanding what image cause a reaction.

Marta Tryshak Instagram

Who wants to see me with an oatmeal face mask on while eating cereal at 4am behind my office desk?  Nobody because there’s nothing glamorous about it. Now, let’s take me in a cocktail dress showing some leg at a swanky party, well that will get 300 likes. So while the reality of life is of essence, it appears that nobody on Instagram wants to see it. In fact, I believe that more so than Facebook, Instagram has become an indulgent vessel to escape the reality. Plus no other network makes our life feel anymore dull than exploring the thrilling lives of others via Instagram.

So what kind of an image do  I portray of myself? The kind that people want to see, the kind that offers a glimpse it a glitzy lifestyle of an individual who while dabs in that side of life is also the one who works 10 hours a day, 6 days a week running a business. So the Ritz Carlton getaways, Louboutin pumps and TIFF parties all come with a grain of reality. A life where finding the balance between what is real and what is expected can lead one into a lifestyle that is unhealthy and disconnected from reality. Keeping perspective into reality is becoming progressively more difficult as we’re exposed to variety of networks that feed us perfect images of the perfect life which leaves us wondering how come mine is not that way. It is a vicious circle that leaves us believing that the grass is greener on the other side.

Marta Tryshak Istagram

As far as my reflection on my own image goes, a pretty picture is just what Instagram wants and that’s the brutal reality of it. So what I hope is that whenever someone looks at an image on any social network they realize that there’s a true story to that image that may not be as glamorous and fabulous as it may seem. After all, life is what we make it out to be. So if we can curate a perfect life with beautiful images, why not make the effort to actually create true beauty in our everyday life by focusing our energy on making changes that will positively reflect on our lives?!

What’s do you think of this topic? I would love to hear you opinion below in the comments.

With Love…




  1. September 24, 2014 / 8:41 am

    What a great post with a great message! I think it is so so so important, especially for young girls, to remember that what they see on Instagram, youtube and blogs is, most of the time, a curated, edited, glamorized version of people’s life. Of course it is nice to scroll down tons of beautiful pictures of beautiful girls, food and places, but we have to keep in mind that this is not someone’s whole reality!

    MD | http://byourbself.blogspot.ca/

    • September 29, 2014 / 12:30 pm

      I am so glad to hear you enjoyed the article, I absolutely agree that often times that was is seen digitally is not necessarily the truth of everyday life.


  2. Pat
    September 27, 2014 / 12:44 am

    Gabrielle, you are beautiful and intelligent. Me being man who loves to see your site and enjoy your photography and fun places you go, Never stop. Men often talk out without thinking, I know I have a lifetime of knowledge.

    • September 29, 2014 / 12:20 pm

      Thank you Pat for such kind words!


  3. Crystal
    October 1, 2014 / 11:27 pm

    This was great read and definitely some food for thought! I can really relate to this, especially the part when your friend told you boldly that he would have never wanted to get to know you based on your photos on social media. I have the same problem as well. I have been told by a number of friends that I come of as high maintenance in photos on social media, but am completely different person once you get to know me. You don’t realize this until someone points this out to you and it really changed my perspective when browsing through others photos on Instagram and other social media outlets.

    So happy to be reading a blog by a fellow Torontonian, keep up the great posts and photos!

    • October 6, 2014 / 4:22 pm

      Thank you so much Crystal for the kind comment:) Social media definitely has changes the game when it comes to peopled perspective of us. I think that with instagram especially everything should be taken with a grain of salt.

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